Because they don’t have mouths?! No, that’s not it. Most likely because men do not process issues by talking. They "just do it." Moreover, breaking up is difficult and people tend to avoid the difficult: why put energy into something that is over?

 Men also tend to compartmentalize relationships. Things are put in a box and stored emotionally. None of these reasons dispel the hurt and infuriation that women feel when he has disappeared on her. Go ahead, scream.

It is very difficult to be married to someone whose family does not care for you. I think it is important to get your relationship with the family on better grounds before making any commitments. Otherwise, life will be hard for you and your future children. 

I have known many a daughter-in-law who has suffered greatly under the withering voices of a nasty family. Begin by finding out exactly why they don’t like you. Your boyfriend will know.

Well, now you know how superficial you can be. Since Alicia called you back in decent spirits, I think you might have a chance. You are a bit old for her; the best way for you to develop a relationship with her is to get to know her parents. Parents tend to unbend for well-situated, mature young men with a purpose.  

Get yourself invited over for supper, help with chores around the house. Treat the family to a pizza dinner delivered (to reciprocate for the supper) and generally make yourself a fixture. Flatter her mother with flowers and talk to Dad about the things he enjoys.

Downside?? You are going to have to get used to ignoring Sister-Gorgeous, whether she comes on to you or not. Are you mature enough to handle it?

Some people have no difference in mind when they use the two phrases and use them interchangeably. Other people use the phrase "in love" to denote a possibly temporary state of infatuation. The word "love" is used to describe deep, committed, relationships such as marriage, child-parent...

The most time-consuming, least productive thing a woman can do is to obsess on what a man means when he says something. Instead, she should ask.

You are not doing anything wrong. His behavior is rude, crude, and inappropriate. Even the most committed of men are known to sneak a peek at an attractive woman. However, they do it surreptitiously, without insulting or hurting their beloved. Your friend's behavior although not verbally crude, implies that women are there to fulfill him. It is insulting and demeaning to all women and to you.

Perhaps he is unpolished and has not had the opportunity to learn how to behave like a gentleman. Perhaps he does not realize that men are to treat their beloved as if she were the only woman in the world, no matter what he is thinking.

This is behavior to nip in the bud. It is a bad habit, like spitting. It will not get better after the wedding. If it does not get better, you had better decide whether you are able to endure being insulted by your own husband whenever an attractive woman walks by.

There are wonderful, hardworking, creative men all over the world who are as straight as pins. However, if you have a question about his sexuality, because of your intuition or observations, you need an answer.

Getting to know someone is an information-gathering time. A time to ask questions about his family, his childhood, and his past relationships. One evaluates a friend or potential beloved based on this information. Don't commit your emotions until you have a deep, working knowledge of the person at hand.

At this time, in the culture, homosexuality and bisexuality are not uncommon. You have an absolute right to ask, kindly, as a friend. He may be attracted to you and you may have some feelings for him, but you have a world of information yet to discover before turning those attraction vibrations into the actual caring for a beloved.

If your faith is a central part of your life, you need to find someone who shares those same beliefs and values. Otherwise, you will feel lonely and empty in the middle of your relationship. Couples who share on a spiritual basis have a different, deeper level of intimacy. 

I wonder about your description of the only kinds of men who want to date you as being losers. Why? Why long-term relationships with losers? What is it about you that these men liked? What is it about them you liked? Take a good look at your past relationships and what you would want to change about them. They may hold the key to your dates with duds.

Think this through a bit. Make up a list of the kinds of qualities you find important in a man and what you want to do about him once he is in your life. These are important questions.

Yes, you should go golfing with a friend if you like. Even spouses pursue interests separately. I cannot think of one reason to keep this information from your boyfriend. He probably doesn’t even remember your request to golf together.

I do not think that dating demands an exclusive relationship. Only betrothal, engagement, and marriage require fidelity and exclusiveness. You seem to want to continue with the safety of an exclusive relationship but without the constraints…often known as "trying to have one’s cake and eat it, too."

If there has been an understanding of fidelity in your current relationship, although it lacks commitment, your current boyfriend certainly might dump you if you stray. On the other hand, without commitment for the future, what good is exclusivity?

What concerns me more is why are you flitting from one to another? You don’t seem to have a plan for your future in mind. Without a plan you just will get involved willy-nilly and bring nothing to your future. An enormous amount of time and energy goes into new relationships. Make sure it counts.

It sounds like the lady is still committed to her husband and family. I think it is time for you to move on. In addition, relationships that have pity as a component usually do not work well. Marry your equal.

The way to meet people is to make room in your life for interests and organizations that are meaningful to you. Find things to do that reflect your values and beliefs. My sense is that you have some high standards. Examine them and make sure they aren’t unobtainably high.

If you have a faith, go to church, temple, or mosque. Shop around and become involved in a volunteer organization in your community that reflects your values and has a lot of community participation. Sports, hobbies, classes, and politics, are just a few areas with lots of women. Let people know you are looking. Don’t get lost in solitary pursuits.

Look at the way you present yourself to the world. What do your clothes, grooming and manners say to others. What is your attitude towards others, are you surly? Snide? Sarcastic? Unpleasant? Edgy? Painfully shy? Uncommunicative? Warm? Compassionate? Friendly? Interested? Fun?

Some people have a hard time saying goodbye. So they say "See you later", instead. Former lovers don’t make good best friends and interfere with subsequent relationships. It is time to break the connection.

Sounds like you never get what you want. Some people spend their lives never getting what they want. Part of getting what you want consists of being wise about what you pick to want. Reality-based desires are more likely to be filled.

Exclusivity is the domain of courtship, betrothal, and marriage, so I don’t have any problem with him dating both of you at the same time. People who date are shopping around.

I do have a problem, however, with someone who is not honest about his other interests. If he deliberately misled you, you now have a snapshot into his character. This should be a major factor in choosing, in choosing and keeping friends. Relationships can downgrade or upgrade depending on a variety of factors. One can continue to have a more casual relationship with a person one once thought was a closer friend.

You behaved like a cad. One starts and ends an evening out with the same woman. Anything less is rude, sophomoric, behavior. Forgiveness for such loutishness begins with flowers and a card imploring forgiveness. Use words like "stupid thing to do", and "thoughtless". Do the right thing.

You don’t need to change your company; you need to change your priorities beginning with making yourself a life. A life consists of your family, perhaps a spouse; perhaps children, friends, and several different interests that are don’t replicate what you do at work.

I am going to let you in on a secret. Many people don’t have much to do on the weekend. By not going into work or signing on to the computer, you will eventually find something else to do, and perhaps someone to do it with. Also, there are some excellent interests surveys available to help you match up to the things that you would enjoy. One I highly recommend is The Personal Career Development Profile. It is a widely available test.

Well in my humble opinion, you should cash in this seventies throwback and change your phone number. His demands are way out of line and indicate a selfish, self-centered personality. Dump him or be his doormat, your choice.

By being an interesting woman leading an interesting life.

Where you spend your time is what you value. You need to evaluate whether the life you have designed is meeting your needs and hopes for the future. As well as evaluating your current work, look into time management enhancers, and help with weekly chores. 

You also need to decide what your values are and go to places that have the kinds of people who share them. Volunteer organizations, churches, hobbies, and classes offer ways to meet people.  It is best to become acquainted with people when involved in a common goal.  

It sounds like you have been standing on your own two feet, and helping others. Sounds like you need some balance. On one hand, you need to use your gifts of giving and helping. On the other hand, you need to learn how to give yourself breathing room just to "be".

No one can take your "guilt" away. You own it. It is wholly yours. It will leave when you replace it. Instead of feeling guilty, make yourself a big list of things to do that are comfortable, relaxing and soothing. Keep it close at hand and choose from it whenever you have extra time.